The Bold Winner's Blog

I realized that doing what you can is one of the most important things. Simply showing up and taking the necessary action in every area of your life is the key to happiness and success. It doesn’t matter how bad, devastating, or damaging a situation may seem. What truly matters is your willingness to act - regardless of the circumstances.  The surest way to ensure that a situation stays the same or worsens is to do nothing and dwell in a state of despair. This mindset only weakens you over time, and some people turn to unhealthy habits, like drugs or distractions, to "forget" their problems. But these are temporary illusions of happiness. The problem doesn’t disappear; it grows stronger the more you ignore it. The only way to overcome seemingly insurmountable challenges is to take responsibility and do what you can. There is always something you can do; whether it’s a direct step toward a solution or an indirect action that prepares you for progress. If you take the time to ...

Last week, I responded to a user who asked a question on one of my blog posts. The question was: "I do acquire knowledge, but I don't have solid career experience because I wasn't consistent in my studies and college life. I wasted a lot of time. Also, I wasn't confident in my skills. So, I've never applied for a job. I still hesitate. My knowledge is wasted and still wasting. Your thoughts, please?" When I first read the question, I wasn’t in the right frame of mind to respond, as I was feeling a bit exhausted. So, I made a note to reply when I was better prepared.  When I finally sat down to respond, I found the words flowing effortlessly through my mind. In crafting my reply, I felt as though parts of it resonated deeply with me—touching on areas of my own life, even beyond the scope of the question. It struck me then to share my response as a blog post, hoping it might resonate with you as well. Here is my reply: --- Hi ..., Thank you for your comment. Fir...

"When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change." - Wayne Dyer I came across this quote recently and found myself reflecting on its meaning. What could Wayne Dyer be trying to say? At first, it’s clear he isn’t talking about physical objects. No matter how differently you look at a cup, it’s still a cup. You can get creative about its use, but its essence doesn’t change. So, Dyer must be talking about something deeper; something we can’t touch or measure. That led me to think about thoughts, emotions, and perceptions. Our relationship with physical things is simple and measurable. But when it comes to intangibles, like how we think or feel, it’s a lot more complicated. For example, take love. Someone might tell you they love you, and while you might sense it in their words or actions, there’s no test to prove it. You simply trust your interpretation of how they make you feel. This is where Dyer’s quote really hits home. It’s about how our thoughts a...

I was listening to The Diary of a CEO, where Steve hosted lawyer James Sexton, who made a profound statement on love and commitment that inspired me to write this. He said, “It’s so brave to love, and it is only brave because it is scary. It’s terrifying to know that this thing might break my heart, yet I’m going to let it because the joy it brings me in the meantime; I wouldn’t trade that for anything in the world.” He added, “Life is terrifying and brutal, and it invariably ends. We’re all going to die; everyone we love is going to die. We’re playing a game we can’t win to the utmost. And to me, to have a partner in that; someone whose hand you can hold when you’re scared, who will be there for you and you for them, who helps you see your blind spots as you help them see theirs... what a beautiful thought that is.” Reflecting on this, I realized how much courage it takes to love. Loving anyone is risky; it takes strength to open yourself to the possibility of pain, yet you make yours...

Inspired to write today about Trump, who has been projected to win the U.S. election. While I generally don't like discussing politics, I find his story of resilience and historic comeback fascinating and inspiring, which is why I’m writing this. For years, he's been called every name in the book, accused of countless things, faced numerous criminal charges, and even survived two assassination attempts. Yet, he didn’t quit. He wasn’t scared into stopping his campaigns. Instead, he kept on with his mantra of "Fight, fight, fight," embodying it by returning to the campaign trail with full force. He encountered relentless attempts to cancel, discredit, and label him. Yet, he pushed through it all. The American people saw in him a resilient spirit, one that resonated with the values of America’s founding fathers, and ultimately decided he was the right leader for this moment. What’s the takeaway here? Don’t let any setback stop you, no matter how overwhelming it looks! Fa...

In today’s world, it’s common to see happiness defined by what we can acquire; whether it’s wealth, influence, experiences, or recognition. Yet even as people gain these things, fulfillment often remains elusive. The philosopher and theologian St. Thomas Aquinas identified four substitutes that people often chase in place of true spiritual fulfillment: wealth, pleasure, power, and honor. These are not inherently bad pursuits; each has a role in life. But when they’re mistaken for the ultimate sources of happiness, they often lead us further from the contentment we seek, creating a void that only grows deeper. As Robert Barron writes, “One of the most fundamental problems in the spiritual order is that we sense within ourselves the hunger for God, but we attempt to satisfy it with some created good that is less than God. Thomas Aquinas said that the four typical substitutes for God are wealth, pleasure, power, and honor. Sensing the void within, we attempt to fill it up with some combin...

Last week was one of those weeks where I struggled to find any motivation to write. Sometimes it's hard to explain why that happens. But as I always believe, there are no excuses. While I felt small nudges to jot down a few thoughts, I didn’t follow through. And that’s okay; it’s a reminder that I'm human. I have my visions, dreams, goals, and aspirations. I have a clear picture in my mind of how I want things to unfold, what I want to achieve, and the consistency I aim to maintain. But here’s the thing: we’re never at 100%, and that's perfectly fine. It’s okay if I occasionally miss a week of writing. While I don’t want it to become a habit, I also shouldn’t be too hard on myself if it happens once in a while. Sometimes, we cling to the idea that things must stay exactly as we envision them. But life doesn’t always work that way, and it’s okay to accept that. We are human; imperfect and prone to error. Our true beauty lies in those imperfections. So perhaps what you can ta...

On the first day of this month, a thought came to mind, and I shared it with some friends: "As a man, you must fight your demons. You must handle your responsibilities, and you must defend your truth.   No one is coming to save you, and no one is coming to make it easier for you. It's all on you. You must do your best, always trust in your God, and survive.   Stay focused, and always take your steps, your actions, your shots, no matter how overwhelming or difficult it may seem.   That’s the only way.   If you choose to give up, know that you’re on your own." Based on this, I’m writing today’s blog post to dig deeper into this truth. The Hard Truth: No Easy Way Out It’s a difficult realization to accept, but there’s no easy way out of the challenges and struggles you face in life. The only way is to face them head-on, take charge, and exert full control over the things you can influence.  What exactly can you control?   Your choices,...

There are people who believe in complete freedom; the freedom to act as they want, do what they want, and behave however they choose, without any regard for the future or the consequences of their actions.  To them, it doesn’t matter what comes to mind; they do it because it "feels good," because they want to in the moment, and because, as they say, "the future isn’t guaranteed anyway." Many of these individuals often throw around phrases like "life is too short," interpreting it as a green light to do anything and everything without careful consideration. In their view, since time is limited, we should rush through life, doing whatever we feel like because, well, life is short. However, anyone who has paid attention to the lives of those who didn’t care about their choices; who acted impulsively because it felt good in the moment, can easily see that this kind of lifestyle is often filled with regret later on. People end up regretting poor choices: neglec...

  Late for last week’s post. :) When we talk about diversity, many immediately think of categories like race, religion, or gender. Those are important, but there’s a crucial element of diversity that often goes unnoticed: the diversity of experiences . What do I mean by this? People are different, not just in appearance or background, but in how they experience the world. No two individuals share the exact same life experiences, interpret events in the same way, or feel the same emotions about what happens in their lives. Understanding this is key to recognizing that we are all unique in our own way. The choices we make, influenced by these varied experiences, should be respected; as long as they don't disrupt the natural functioning of society or challenge what some call the "norm." What is the ‘norm’ anyway? The "norm" is a set of behaviors or expectations generally agreed upon by society. But here's the thing: it shouldn’t mean everyone has to make the sa...