The Bold Winner's Blog

It’s okay to make mistakes. It’s okay to lose your temper sometimes, as long as it doesn’t become a pattern. It’s okay if you made a wrong choice, as long as you learn from it and don’t repeat it. It’s okay to feel bad about an aspect of your life you wish were better, as long as you recognize that it doesn’t diminish your worth in any way and you don’t dwell on it. It’s okay to feel hurt by something someone did, as long as you  move on and don’t spend all your time trying to understand why they did it. It’s okay to want to help people and do things for them, as long as you don’t overextend yourself and you maintain your boundaries. It’s okay to want things for yourself and not always push your needs aside, as long as you understand that sometimes setting your individual needs aside may still be the best choice for a particular situation. It’s okay to lose some battles, as long as losing them gives you the edge you need to win the long war. The point of this post is that it’s okay...

I had aimed to write at least twice a month, and although I had the ideas and inclination to write last month, I never found the time to sit down and let my thoughts flow. It’s the second of November, and I’ve decided to let the second article words flow. As with everything in life, I believe we all have a personal responsibility and we all have a choice to do something or not do something about it. If you think back on your life from where you are now, you’ll see that your present moment and current reality stem from the sum of all the past choices you’ve made. Of course, there may be good things and bad things happening, some of which we feel we didn’t choose. However, if you look at everything from the perspective of your ability to make a choice, you’ll realize that regardless of the circumstances or situations you didn’t choose or cause, the outcome, what happens next, how those experiences affect you, and whether you’re able to navigate them depends greatly on what you choose to ...

I had written something on this subject in the past here . However, I gained some fresh perspective I'll love to share.  Forgiveness has always been a difficult topic. I, myself, struggled with it for a while. There’s a natural feeling of justification when you want to deal with people who have hurt you in the past, people who have wronged or betrayed you. It feels noble and right to want to hit back at them, to give them a taste of their own medicine, and to show them all that you’re made of. However, over time, forgiveness has proven to be the most noble way. Now, some people misinterpret forgiveness to mean that you should let certain people back into your life and give them another chance to hurt you again. I personally don’t believe that’s what forgiveness is. I think forgiveness is letting go of resentment, bitterness, hate, and anger towards those who may have hurt you in the past. This letting go doesn’t mean you should be naïve enough to give them the chance to hurt you th...

September The last day of September, just three months to the end of 2025. I sat awake, thinking about the past few months and how quickly time has flown. I’m happy with all I was able to do this year. Not from a place of trying to prove anything to anyone, but from a place of peace. A place of choosing. A place where I wasn’t trying to be the best or outperform anyone, but simply acting from my innermost feelings and leanings. I thought about the twists and turns: the days filled with fear, the days of encouragement; the moments I felt I had lost everything, and the moments when everything seemed to fall perfectly into place. Looking back, I realize how beautiful the entire experience of life has been, both what we call “good” and what we label “bad.” It’s interesting how, in the moments when you feel at your lowest or most alone, something unexpected always seems to happen, something that proves you are never truly by yourself. As I sit reflecting, I feel happy. I’ve made some of the...

I was listening to a podcast by Dr. Wayne Dyer when I heard something that made a lot of sense to me and inspired me to write my first article for September. Dyer spoke about a quiet transformation that happens inside us when we realize it’s not about our egos What’s in it for me? How much can I get? but rather about How can I be of service? How can I reach out to someone in need? What can I do to help? Most of the time, as humans, we’re stuck in the mindset that we’re “missing out,” that something isn’t right, or that something is lacking. Usually, it’s because we’re focused on ourselves, our needs, our wants, feeding our ego to feel good. When we “achieve” or “get” things, the ego feels soothed, giving us a temporary, dare I say false , sense of satisfaction. But it’s fleeting. Soon, we’re chasing the next achievement or acquisition to keep that ego high alive. Now, shift to a different mode: I’m going to forget about myself for a moment. How can I help so...

One of the most transformative truths I’ve learned is that the greatest illusion we live under is the illusion of separation. Most struggles with our state of mind, peace, or happiness arise from believing we are somehow separate, separate from others, from creation, even from the Source that gave us life. This false belief of separateness is rooted in the ego. The ego tries to convince us that we are defined by what we have, what we do, or what others think of us. It builds a persona that is never enough, never beautiful enough, never successful enough, never worthy enough. But the truth is far simpler and far more profound: you are never alone. The same essence that dwells within you exists in every living being. Your core essence is not better or worse than anyone else’s. At your deepest level, you are love, you are worthy, and you are pure awareness. Nothing can add to this, and nothing can take it away. You didn’t need to prove yourself to be worthy when you were in the womb. As W...

It’s been a while, but I’m releasing some writing energy... A friend of mine inspired this post. He struggles with personal issues, and when they weigh heavily on him, his behavior toward others, including myself, changes. For him, I think it’s difficult to see how his actions affect the people around him. So whenever I notice it, I tell him, firmly, that I don’t appreciate that behavior. He usually becomes defensive at first, but eventually, he realizes it after I point it out. One thing I believe he gets wrong is this: he feels that because he’s going through something, the world should feel sorry for him, treat him gently, or lower its expectations. But reality always teaches us otherwise, the world doesn’t care about your personal struggles, nor should a wise person expect it to. Whether you’re going through hell or not, the world still has expectations of you. People still expect you to respect their time, treat them with dignity, and behave decently around them. Struggling...

This might be a controversial take, but it’s an interesting perspective I’ve been musing on lately. Most people carry some form of emotional wound with them. It could be hurt from a past relationship, insecurity about their appearance, or even trauma from emotional or physical abuse experienced during childhood. These wounds, whether visible or not, leave lasting impressions. And if they’re not acknowledged and healed, they can linger for years. Healing requires letting go, choosing not to let past pain dictate your future, and realizing your worth, your strength, and your life’s purpose. When we carry unhealed wounds into new relationships, it’s like walking around with an open cut. Any minor comment, behavior, or action, especially from someone who had nothing to do with the original hurt can feel like salt in that wound. The pain you feel isn’t necessarily from what was just said or done; it’s the resurfacing of the original hurt that never healed. This often leads to disproportiona...

Anyone who intentionally tries to make you feel worse about yourself - who belittles you, makes you feel unworthy or of no value, or forces you to go above and beyond just to prove your worth to them - is not meant to be in your life. That person, or group of people, is not your tribe. One of the biggest mistakes people make is building their lives around trying to change the minds, perspectives, or beliefs of such individuals. The result is almost always the same (unless by Divine intervention), their opinion of you will never change, no matter what you accomplish. So why do kind-hearted, empathetic, and well-meaning people fall into this trap? It lies in the natural human desire to be seen, valued, respected, and recognized as individuals with worth and purpose. This desire can be a healthy motivator when it drives us to contribute meaningfully to our communities and connect with others. But it becomes dangerous when we aim it at people who are committed to making us feel less; thos...

If some people can’t see your value; if they choose to judge or stereotype you based on your race, gender, beliefs, mannerisms, or whatever labels they’ve decided to operate from, don’t waste a single second trying to convince them otherwise. Not a second. Not a breath. Not a word. You don’t owe them clarity. You don’t owe them understanding. You don’t owe them anything . The best response has always been no response. Let them be. Let them think whatever nonsense they want to think about you. That’s their right. And your power is in giving them that freedom,  while reclaiming your own. Don’t shrink, explain, perform, or prove. Your life is not an audition for someone else's approval. Letting go without a fight -  that is power. That’s the kind of healing no one posts about on a sunny day with a green juice. Healing? It doesn’t always look pretty. Sometimes, it’s feeling the anger you buried a decade ago. It’s finally hearing your own voice again after years of silencing it to...