The Bold Winner's Blog

Being successful is not guaranteed by being able to expertly follow laid out patterns or procedures established by other people. It could be important for you to know those things in your field of endeavor, but it won't be what you need to be successful. Being creative, that is being able to create something entirely different, something new, something that has never been seen or done in a particular way before opens the doors of success to you. You could go online or attend a seminar to find out about how to make a cake. You quickly gain the knowledge, you start making similar cakes and in time, you discover that you cannot really outshine other established cake bakers if you choose to stick to that same style because it's not new. But on your own, with the knowledge you've got, you could challenge yourself and try to come up with a unique formula or a procedure to making a very different and rare kind of cake. You could discover how to make a cake taste more cre...

Take time to work on yourself, other things will naturally follow.  It is pointless to always try to change other things because we do not have full control over everything. But we can have full control over what we do and therefore it is most critical that we take time to develop ourselves and train our mindsets to put us in a right frame of mind to be able to face the challenges of life. You cannot fully control the government, other people , your environment or your peculiar challenges, but you can control yourself and how you react to the things you encounter. You find out that having a greater control over yourself and what you do helps you to be able to navigate through life with ease. You do not bother much about the actions of other people, because you understand that if you can be the best version of yourself, you are already changing the world in your own little way. Changing the world or making it a better place doesn't have to be hard, you don't force pe...

I think everyone wants to be successful and happy. I've not met anyone who wants to live this life being unsuccessful, sad or unhappy. I'd be willing to stake some money if someone can show me anyone who doesn't want to be successful and happy. However, the truth is that being a success or a failure in life is dependent on the choices we make. It's easy to want to succeed. Ask anyone around you. They all want to succeed. But it's few of them that get really successful. That should tell you that success don't come by just wanting it. The first step is the desire. 100% of the world's population can take this step. We all desire something, don't we? The second step is to be willing to work towards towards it. Most people are not willing to work for it. They're always looking for the easy way out, so most of them(about 50%)fail out at this sifting stage. The third and most crucial stage is the test: This stage takes some time and could come in a ...

A lecturer once came into a class to teach, he started dictating notes for the students and at some point, the class started getting noisy. "Keep Quiet," He yelled and continued dictating his notes. The class became very boring and in a very short time, students became noisy and uninterested again. Some of them started fiddling with their phones and stuff. The lecturer got angry and left the class. Another lecturer came into the same class and started to teach. He had no notes and he made every student feel at ease with his jokes. He never told them to keep quiet, the students naturally had to keep quiet because they found him interesting. It was easy to learn from his simple manner of teaching coupled with some cool jokes once in a while. The class was quiet most of the time as the lecturer effortlessly commanded their attention. A man walks into a social gathering and starts expecting everyone to pay attention to him, he has got nothing interesting to say and he sou...

You invested a lot of money into a business, turns out the business didn't go as planned and you lost everything. Well, it has happened. Instead of cursing or hating yourself and whoever introduced you into the business, it's best you don't let it eat you up. You got to understand that with renewed and smarter efforts you can still make tons of money and it's not the end of the world. You may have been in a relationship with someone you thought was the love of your life. Everything went smoothly and wonderfully well. All of a sudden the love turns sour and there's a break up. You feel heartbroken, you feel depressed. Don't let it eat you up! It's not the end of the world either. You've learnt from the relationship and they're not the only persons in the world. You could meet better people. You finished school and you didn't end up with the grade you wanted. You feel like a failure, you feel like you're not good enough. Don't let i...

They say you're not so fine, you're not attractive enough, you're not so tall, you're not so smart, you're not rich enough and etcetera. They say you're not slim or fair enough. They say many things to you so that they can give you reasons why you're not good enough and why you won't be successful. The big question is: What do you believe? Do you believe in what they're telling you? Do you believe that because you don't look a certain way, it means you're not attractive the way you are? Do you really believe you're not smart enough? Do you believe that because you currently don't have as much money as they have now, you won't succeed? It's important you answer these questions and become very conscious of what you believe. Because belief plays an indispensable role in what you achieve in life. Having positive, strong and beautiful beliefs about yourself and your life helps you to have a hopeful and good state of mind. A...

Sometimes, you don't want to do it. You feel weak. You want to just give up. Why stress yourself everyday making effort? Why not chill out and take some time off? You know you have to do it to become one step closer to your target, but you are reluctant to do it. You're being tempted by the block! The block is an enemy of progress designed to steal away your will power, drive and motivation to succeed. Characteristics of the block: Feeling reluctant to continue work, lazy lifestyle and attitude, becoming unconscious of goals and objectives, not paying attention to details, bad habits and etcetera. The block is there to make you lag behind once you yield to it. The block wants you to fall into the trap of laziness. One day off is enough to kick start the full workings of the block. One day off means giving the block a chance at you. There are meant to be no days off till you hit your target. Every second, every moment, every day really counts! Those who care about taki...

You only get rich when you start being conscious of money making and opportunities. You only start falling in love when you start becoming conscious of members of opposite sex. You can only dodge something thrown your way when you are conscious and fully aware of it's position and direction. If you aren't aware, it hits you, it could injure you. Lack of consciousness puts you at the mercy of events. Consciousness helps you take charge and succeed. It enables you to see and continue aiming for your target. Think of any part of your body, you suddenly start feeling and noticing that area. You've sent your consciousness there merely by thinking about it. Consciousness is energy. There is power in consciousness of anything at all. Sometimes, you learn about a new word in the dictionary and somehow you start noticing the word in magazines, books etc. You weren't noticing it before because you we not conscious of it or failed to check its meaning. Your new conscious...

In our society today, it is not uncommon to see men, some of whom are husbands, stay back home and do nothing. In some families, men have completely left their responsibilities for the women. This is quite shameful to say the least. A man is meant to be dogged, active and vibrant. He is meant to take charge of the affairs of his home and ensure that he provides for his family. A man should not sit back at home and expect to eat food everyday without being able to provide for it. No matter how worse things may be for the man, there is always something he can do at least to save the situation and try catering for his family. There is dignity in labour and there is no shame in doing an honourable legal job. Some men have become so lazy these days incapable of taking good care of their wives and homes. Yet they feel a certain sense of pride in themselves and refuse to do certain necessary things to keep the family going because they feel they are above doing such things. What r...

"Every single human being has value and my value is not determined on how I look, what job I have or where I'm from, where I was born, how much money.. All that stuff, they're nothing." - Nick Vujicic Many people around the world today are hopeless, they're tired of this life and they don't know why they are here or what they are living for. Some of them have thought of committing suicide, while others seek to find this hope in the very wrong places. I recently listened to a Ted Talk "Overcoming Hopelessness" by Nick Vujicic. He has no arms and no limbs, but he never lost hope. Faith in himself and an understanding of his power of choice helped him to rise above every challenge he passed through in his life. Life must've have been very tough for this guy and really I cannot imagine what he has overcome in his life before getting where he is right now. Growing up, he must have been bullied and insulted for the way he looked without ar...

I was inspired to write this article because I realised that some persons are beginning to associate extremism with a particular religion or a particular group of people. Stereotypes have been created to fit certain innocent persons who belong to a particular tribe or religion as extremists. This is doing more harm than good in today's world. An extremist is one who has zero tolerance for the views and perspectives of other people asides his own beliefs. He's ready to defend it it any way and finds it difficult to agree with anybody who thinks otherwise. Extremists usually believe that no other opinion apart from theirs is valid. This makes things very difficult for progressives who try to see things from different angles. I do not think any religion or race has monopoly over extremism. Anyone who fits into the aforementioned description above is an extremist. It is wrong therefore to brand all adherents of a particular religion or group as extremists or terrorists beca...

Some days ago, a friend of mine told me that she wasn't happy with me because I didn't write a detailed birthday message on her Facebook timeline. Just saying Happy Birthday to her wasn't enough. And she was quite serious about it until I decided to write something special about her on her Facebook wall. On Whatsapp groups, I've seen friends get into intense arguments which gradually starts becoming offensive or even abusive. To the extent that the parties involved get actually angry with themselves and this leads to some petty personal issues. I've seen people fall in love on social media easily. Just through chatting with one another. And you begin to wonder how something which wasn't so real to us like the internet started becoming a part of our lives, our psychology and our emotions. People compare their number of likes, followers and etcetera on social media. Some can decide to do things they wouldn't naturally do simply to gain some approval ...