Why Commit Suicide?

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I was inspired to write this article because of a friend who was contemplating suicide because she felt her Dad didn't love her. This was my response:

"Damn.. (name),

 Please calm down. You can't kill yourself over anyone. It's not worth it. If your dad is really giving you some headache, distance yourself away from him and stop being too hard on yourself my dear. 

 Please, many people out there care about you and they really love you. I care about you too. Else, I won't bother typing this stuff. 

 Please, understand that many people love you and want you just the way you are. Moreover, you should love yourself above all else. 

 If your Dad is really as terrible as you think, don't try too hard to please him. Just keep your distance from him and still keep in touch with those who really care about you. 

 Because the truth is: It's his choice to care about you or not. It's his choice to love you or not. It's his choice to be nice to you or just be wicked. He has his choices. But his choices shouldn't matter to you because you have your own choices. 

 You have the choice to keep your distance, respect and honor yourself. Thinking of committing suicide is cowardice. And don't You ever think along those lines again. It's a stupid thought. 

 I know such a thought may have come as a way to get back to your dad and prove a point, but it's plain stupid because it won't change anything. Your dad won't probably cry and he may not even give a damn about it. So why think of hurting yourself through suicide. 

 The best revenge will be to stay happy. it's a choice you must make. Whether dad loves you or hates you shouldn't matter to you. I mean, why should it bother bother you? 

 It's their problem to love you or hate you. But you shouldn't depend on them loving or hating you to be a happy individual. Be happy by doing exactly what makes you happy and going for what you really want. 

 Stop this feeling hurt and contemplating suicide. It means you're losing it. I don't want you to lose it. I want you to win it by making yourself happy and being happy even if your dad decides to not care or not love you. 

 Be happy. and don't put your mind into it. Okay? I love you and many others out there really do. And your blog's great. Be happy for me and others who love you. Why commit suicide? It ain't worth it. Please."
I've decided to share my response with you guys in case there is anyone else who is thinking of taking his/her own life as a result of someone else's behavior or situation for that matter.

Bold winners understand that no matter the situation they face, whether it comes from another human being or a thing, there is always a way out of it. Suicide is the cowards way out.

No one should take his life over anyone or anything. It's absurd and it just goes to show that one is a loser. You're a winner. You were designed to win and triumph over every challenge that comes your way. You should face them and choose to be happy by making your own choices rather than put your fate IN the hands of another.

That someone doesn't behave in a particular way to you doesn't mean you should take your own life over that person. I mean, you're simply giving control to that person over your own life. Neither should the outcome of any venture move you to suicide. These things are not in control. As a bold winner, you're always in control. Your life is yours and you bloody own it!

So be in control of your life and let nothing control it for you. Live your life happy. And no matter what it is, just don't ever think of taking your own life because it's plain stupid and implies that you ultimately lost.

The joy of winning over challenges that seemed insurmountable is greater than anything else. Find that joy and keep winning. People love you, your success story is coming around pretty soon. Just hang on.

#Ikechukwu 

Comments

  1. UrchytechAugust 15, 2017 at 7:13 PM

    NICs article bro. But sometimes ita not always easy to let go of loved ones even when it seems they arent reciprocating you mutual affection.

    All you tend to do most times is that you always imagine why such person act the way he/she does.

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    1. Ike OAugust 16, 2017 at 9:05 AM

      You got a point there Uchenna. However, I think that once you figure out or imagine why they're acting that way, you shouldn't waste too much time trying to correct it when all efforts prove abortive. As long as you've done nothing wrong to anyone.

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    2. Ike OAugust 16, 2017 at 9:06 AM

      You got a point there Uchenna. However, I think that once you figure out or imagine why they're acting that way, you shouldn't waste too much time trying to correct it when all efforts prove abortive. As long as you've done nothing wrong to anyone.

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